Peaceful words calms the mind of others. Using angry abusive words will make the anger grow. Use kind words rather than harsh words at all times..
Venerable K Rathanasara shares how the usage of kind speech brings benefits to us:
[Summary of Dhamma sharing on 17 May 2015]- Peaceful Words
Peaceful words begin in peaceful minds. They are intended to unite people who are divided, and result in good will and strengthen friendships. Through the stories during the Buddha’s time, the Supreme Teacher demonstrated that peaceful words have the power to calm and tame unhappy, angry and agitated beings.
In the Alavaka Sutta, the yakkha Alavaka was condescending towards the Buddha by asking the Lord to “get out”, called Him derogatory names, challenging and threatening to harm Him. The Buddha exchanged anger for compassion when he replied, “I do not, friend, see the world anyone who could upset my mind or break my heart asunder.” The Buddha also used peaceful words to overcome any ill-will harboured against him and to convey his profound wisdom.
Practising peaceful words is a graduated step towards Perfect Peace—Nibbana. /\